It just isn't *particularly* messy

Jul. 4th, 2025 09:12 am
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 Good Morning, my Beautiful Friends!
 
After I post this, I'm going to start attacking the lawn. The grass is very thick and rather tall, so this process will most likely be start and go. Usually, I like to start in the front, with the bits that all of the neighbors can see, but this time I will need to start in the back, where things have gotten particularly messy. I'm not saying that the front yard isn't messy -- it is. It just isn't particularly messy when compared to the back yard.
 
After mowing and a shower, I should do laundry. But that might wait until tomorrow, because I definitely stayed up later than I should have last night. That decision will need to be put on hold.
 
I continue to feel strong in my sobriety, secure in my eating habits, and optimistic about changing my spending habits. I may feel tired right now, but I also feel that life is good. I am happy.
 
I hope you find something beautiful in your day, have a safe way of coping with the big kabooms of the fireworks**, and as always, thank you for being here.
 
**Our dog is terrified of them. We have learned that in Ted's case, the thundershirt doesn't help that much, so we usually just let him hide in the laundry room. The big show that the town puts on has a beginning and an end. We can cope with that. It's the lingering booms that continue through the night, since home fireworks are legal where I live. I loved fireworks as a kid, but now I kinda hate them. 

disguises

Jul. 3rd, 2025 09:01 pm
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 disguises
 
These are the things
we hide in our closets, 
the things that we stash 
in wads in our pockets.
Yet wonder why
as time flutters by
nobody knows who we are.
 
2025.07.02/2024.12.17
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 Good Morning, you Beautiful People!

In my "master plan" of time management (okay, it's not a master plan at all...it's trying to figure out what days usually work best for which household tasks that need to be done weekly and monthly -- daily stuff is pretty easy for me, for the most part), Thursday is usually yardwork day. But tomorrow looks like better weather for it, so I'm going to do my "Power Hour" of cleaning and will probably rehang the curtains which have been waiting to be rehung: one is set too low, and another two high, and I also want to be sure that the hardware is properly anchored because I want to double up on the light blocking panels in the front of the house to try to keep cooling costs under control. Believe it or not, that last sentence isn't technically a run-on, due to my use of punctuation, but I sure did do some running with it, huh?

I'm feeling strong in my sobriety, secure in my eating habits, and accepting my new spending habits. Life is good.

I think I'm going to start writing that letter to Pacific Life today. I want to take my time with it, but I also don't want to let its importance fade away. ADHD brains are pretty good at letting topics of passion fade into topics of interest, which then fade into topics that used to be interesting. I don't want to do that.

I hope you find a pocketful of beauty in an unexpected place, and as always, thank you for being here

darkling

Jul. 2nd, 2025 11:06 am
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 darkling

behind closed eyes,
memory unfurls a heavy cloak,
obscuring the glow
of the hope that waits.

2025.07.02/2024.12.14

The original can be found here
 

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 Good Morning, you Beautiful People!

I did most of today's household assignments last night, so other than taking my husband to his lab appointment this morning, I'm mostly going to be lazy. Maybe putter around the house a bit.  

The AA meeting this morning was a reading from "Living Sober," #18 'Easy Does It.' What struck me with this reading was how ADHD and AUD so often go hand in hand. Even if you don't have an ADHD brain, when you are using alcohol, your brain starts thinking a lot like an ADHD brain. And if you have an ADHD brain, you struggle with some of the same issues as you would if you had an AUD brain.  I can feel how my alcohol abuse has permanently affected my patterns of thinking. I don't know if that patterning will ever completely change, but through working with AA and SMART Recovery, I'm learning how to recognize those patterns and use that recognition to change my behaviors. It was a good meeting. I think in my spare time today, I'll work with my Handbook a bit, because I keep letting that slide.

I feel strong in my sobriety, comfortable with my eating, and accepting of the changes in spending habits. It's a good way to feel. I still am getting some spikes of anxiety regarding my past spending, but I remind myself that past-Me doesn't fit inside the hula hoop I am spinning now. I need to carry forward with the information and plans I have now, and let go of past-Me, forgive her, because she was overwhelmed when she made most of those particularly bad decisions. The situation is workable; I will take care of the messes made; it will be work, but all will be good.

I hope you find a pocket of hidden beauty in your day (those are the really fun ones!), and as always, thank you for being here.

lost things

Jul. 1st, 2025 09:30 pm
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lost things

behind best laid plans,
tucked within best intentions,
never to be found.

2025.01.01/2024.12.13

After reviewing the original [found here], I think I need to revise my revisions, as it was intended to a haiku. I've edited into a not-haiku. 

...and it's a haiku again. Well, you could argue that it isn't, since it's not nature based, but it is 5-7-5 once more.

high-energy, hyper-focus slob

Jul. 1st, 2025 08:44 am
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 Good Morning, you Beautiful People!
 
I hope you are all doing well (or well enough, at least). Today's focus is keeping house. I have renamed my semi-weekly cleaning "Power Hour", and on Tuesdays (yes, it used to be one of my lazy days, but apparently in summer, Thursday works a bit better as a lazy day, I am more likely to have to say "Nope!" to yardwork due to weather), I'm going to do a "Power Hour Plus" -- the "Plus" is an extra 30 minutes (or more, if I *want* to) for those odds and ends that I haven't been getting around to, and/or do those deep clean jobs that don't fit into the hour of focused cleaning I usually do.  For someone with ADHD, I have a rather clean home. I learned how to keep a clean home by accepting that I regularly need to change the way I do some things, while I still stay consistent with others, to satisfy my brain's ability to focus. It's a delicate balance, and I've pretty much got it figured out: quarterly, I assess what's working and what's not working. By nature, I am a slob who sometimes has high-energy, hyper-focused bouts of cleaning. Now, my home is mostly guest-ready most of the time. It's been a lifetime's process to get here.
 
I also have a teletherapy appointment, but after that, my day is open. So I guess I still get half of a lazy Tuesday, right?
 
I'm feeling strong in my sobriety, comfortable with my eating decisions, and committed to spending conscientiously.
 
I hope you find some beauty in your day, and as always, thank you for being here!

graphite

Jun. 30th, 2025 05:20 pm
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 graphite

she plans in pencil
for the gravity of ink
overwhelms.
while the glide of graphite
eases.

another page
another day
and all is well

2025.06.30/2025.06.28

sticker crazy...it can be problematic

Jun. 30th, 2025 04:51 pm
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Good afternoon, my Beautiful Friends!

I literally have a sticker stuck to the back of my hand. I just noticed it. This might be a symptom of going sticker crazy (see comment below see photo below).

I got to bed late last night and did not nap on Sunday, so I was planning on sleeping in a bit this morning. While I didn't wake up as early as I have been lately, I still woke up plenty early to go to my Zoom AA Meeting. So I did. Today was about picking up the groceries and putting out the garbage. I did the former before lunch, but the latter will wait until after dinner...maybe until after the sun sets, as we are under a heat advisory. And I REALLY hate sweating. Yesterday, I set up a new checking account, which is going to be my "allowance account." I decided to go this route, with a debit card and a monthly deposit to limit my personal spending.

I feel secure in my sobriety, comfortable in my food choices, and accepting of my spending choices (though I really want to buy more stickers...and I will, but not until my "allowance" account fully is up and running).

I hope you find some beauty in your day, and that you keep cool and drink plenty of water, and as always, I am thankful that you are here.

last night's dream

Jun. 29th, 2025 09:53 pm
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last night's dream

populated by horror tropes,
it did not come from the land of nightmares.

a victim cries as her face
forces its way through a steel sieve
and another is plowed
over by the car of a clown.

I still want to stay in the drive-thru.
to collect my Big Mac.

I wasn't dreaming of drinking,
but I dreamt that I dreamt
of drinks I don’t drink.
and I wake
from a dream in a dream
I never had.

I search desperately
for functional facilities
to empty my bladder
in a bright, shiny mall
I have never seen.

I find it
and use it and
realize I am dreaming
I wonder if I’ve wet the bed.

I have not.

I wake and wonder
at my callous dream-self
as I stumble to the toilet
in the dark.

2026.29.2025

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 Good Morning, you Beautiful People!
 
Today is planning day. I'm trying out some new things, and I hope I enjoy them as much as I enjoy scheduling in my naps! Probably not, though, since it's adjusting my cleaning schedule a bit, and making budgeting a great priority. But they seem like healthy things to do, so I am doing them!
 
I'm feeling strong in my sobriety, comfortable in my eating decisions, and hopeful about permanent change in my spending habits.
 
I hope you have a beautiful Sunday, and as always, thank you for being here!

scheduled laziness

Jun. 28th, 2025 09:15 am
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 Good Morning, my Beautiful Friends!
 
Today is a scheduled lazy day. I forgot to submit the car registration on Thursday, so I took care of that first thing, but only other To-Dos are to fold the towels and go to a face to face meeting. Other than that, I can be as lazy as I choose...or dive in head first into a project. It doesn't matter -- it is totally and completely a Me-Day. A nap will be taken!
 
I'm feeling strong in my sobriety and food choices, and I feel a sense of acceptance regarding our current financial situation and the spending changes I need to make. I feel like the reckless spending is a little less reckless, now that I'm paying more attention to its plausible results (nothing like playing the tape forward, right?).
 
I hope you find something beautiful in your day, and as always, thank you for being here!

graphite

Jun. 28th, 2025 09:06 am
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graphite
 
she plans in pencil
for the gravity of ink
overwhelms.
the glide of graphite
eases
her through each new day.
 
2025.06.28

resting on my laurels

Jun. 27th, 2025 09:59 pm
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 There won't be a poem today, because I don't feel much like a poet. Besides, I think anything I would write today would feel incomplete after my last offering. "water fire moon" was one of those poems that practically sprang complete at first draft. So I'm going to rest on my laurels today.

not everything is a business venture

Jun. 27th, 2025 11:22 am
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 Good Morning, you Beautiful People!

I'm going to try to keep this short, because dropping our dog off for doggie day care and a bath ended up taking longer than expected, and I want to get the housework started in the morning, since I always work more slowly in the afternoon! The AA meeting this morning was about the 6th Tradition (basically, that AA + Profit = Bad News, so don't do it), and it was a very quiet meeting. I shared on the topic, then I hopped in with a second share to say that sitting quietly together is also a good thing, it's just different from what we usually do. It's one of my favorite traditions -- it reminds us that not everything is a business venture, which is good to remember when we live in a capitalistic world. I also like the tradition that essentially says benevolent anarchy is a good thing.

I feel strong in my sobriety and in my eating habits. I'm not at a point of feeling strong about my financial decisions, since I haven't built up enough of a practice in conscientious spending yet. But I'm working on it, so I am hopeful.

I hope you find something beautiful in your day, and as always, thank you for being here!

water, fire, moon

Jun. 26th, 2025 09:22 pm
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water, fire, moon
 
My words are water
being poured
over another's moon.
 
I wash their quiet
with crashing waves
they do not need.
 
When I am moon,
you are fire
and I swallow your flames
and then drink the ocean
to quench my thirst.
 
And my words turn to water once more.
 
2025.06.26

Inspired by another Bluesky poet, Gerhard:

Gerhard 🐦‍⬛: "Thorns in the Crown of the Moon #poem #poetry #writing #writingcommunity #poetrycommunity (Alt text available)" — Bluesky


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This one, I'm going to post to my Bluesky and my Facebook account, because I want to know about other folks' "Dream Houses."

I'm not talking about Dream Homes, mind you, I mean the houses that you encounter in your dreams. Do you go back to the same dream space time and time again? Or is your dream space populated with lots of houses? Are they scary? Or are they comfortable?

Here is my description of the House that lives in my dreamscape. It's someplace where dream-Me often goes:

My House is very complex. It has a basement level that dream-Me won't enter anymore. In the first House dream I had, I was curious enough to go down the ramshackle stairs. I don't even remember what I saw, but I woke up feeling that I was being swallowed whole by something that was constricting me from all sides; I suppose you could compare it to being swallowed by a snake, though I've never been swallowed by a snake, so take that comparison with a grain of salt.

In the early dreams (I've been having these dreams for all of my adult life), the House belonged to my mother, but it is not the house I grew up in. In later dreams, it is usually a house I'm moving into. The glimpses of the exterior indicate that it is an old home of three stories; the interior tells a different story. There are two levels of living space, and sometimes the bedrooms are on a third level, but sometimes they are in the extension. I've never seen the exterior of the extension, but it is built over flowing water (definitely Frank Lloyd Wright vibes), and I am not comfortable with the room that the creek flows through. There is something dark and green in there that does not have good intentions.

My bedroom is always the end link of a chain of three rooms. The first room is a large, airy bedroom, and my room is small and cozy. The room in the middle? You have to walk through a field of psychic energy that is terrifying. It's not the same feeling as being swallowed that the basement has, but it's like walking through an ocean of ghosts, both horrifying and mournful. Then there is the attic. IT IS HUGE. But not terrifying. It's easy to get lost up there, and there is more than one access point, so you don't always leave the way you came. When I'm up there, I'm usually looking for something I've lost. (Yeah, the attic definitely now sounds like a metaphor for ADHD, doesn't it?)

This dream space has a lot of stairs. I opened a door in the kitchen that I thought was the pantry, and it turned out to be a rickety spiral staircase (not the same ramshackle stairs from the first dream, but those were also in the kitchen) going down to the basement, and I slammed that door hard and fast. There is a large main course of stairs, and in the extension, there are several half levels. I'd love to see an exterior shot of that extension someday.

I don't think that my House exists in "normal" space and time as it appears in my dreams (it would be a bit much, even for an HGTV weird homes show), but there are some parts of it that feel like they do belong out here, in non-dream space. I have no idea if this last paragraph makes any sense.

Anyway, if you've read this, share with the House(s) that reside in your dreamscape. I'm curious.

is financial sobriety a thing?

Jun. 26th, 2025 07:20 am
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Good Morning, my Beautiful Friends!

The weather isn't doing exactly what I thought it would today -- I thought that the rain would start today, but instead, it looks like we will have more oppressive humidity and heat, for the most part. I'm going to stick with the same plan of working on the budget and bills, though.  

I spent most of the time yesterday researching how to do better at budgeting and spending with ADHD, and I think I have a plan. I need to discuss it with my husband, because it affects him, too. I feel that we need to each have a preloaded card for our incidental purchase...you know, the stuff that you would have just used the cash you had on hand. Except we don't always have cash on hand, and there are some business which don't accept cash. We put nearly everything on credit cards, with the intention of paying off all new charges each month. And that often works. But neither of us are particularly good about tracking that spending, so we have some months where I have to say, "alrighty then, I guess I'm just going to pay *most* of the new balance," or I might react to a large unexpected charge by saying, "I'll deal with that next month." The problem with this thinking is that those extra charges accumulate.

This system would tie directly into SMART tools, like maintaining an urges log (which I haven't been doing...I've been neglecting my SMART Recovery handbook lately). I could write pages about the financial changes I want to make, but for now, I'll be putting more focus on maintaining an urges and spending log.

I feel confident in my sobriety and content with my eating habits. The reckless spending is a lot of work, but I do feel like I'm strong and capable enough to work through this. When I first looked at the upcoming bills for July, I felt frozen for a moment and almost set everything aside. Instead, I made note I had ahead of me, and decided I needed some budgeting tools (the type you learn, not the type you buy), which led to yesterday's research. Today, I'll be setting up a financial planner with the trackers and systems I think will serve me best, along with paying any bills that need immediate attention.

I hope that you find beauty in your day, and as always, thank you for being here.

i have no desire to melt

Jun. 25th, 2025 09:23 am
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Good Morning, You Beautiful People!

I spent some time this morning cleaning up my office of chaos, and I found the top of my credenza AND boxed all of the donation stuff from my floor that kept growing as I decluttered stuff from the rest of the house. I always vow that "I will keep it this way!" But to be honest, I won't. But I have noticed that my chaos collections have gotten smaller with time, and that it doesn't really take that long to take care of them. I'm just a master procrastinator.

I have an ENT appointment this morning, and bills and budget to work on this afternoon, but other than that, I'm going to be a lazy bum. Because it's going to be crazy hot again, and I have no desire to melt.

I'm feeling strong in my sobriety, happy about my food choices, and committed to making permanent changes to my spending habits.

I hope that each of you finds some beauty in your day, and as always, thank you for being here.


lovestory

Jun. 24th, 2025 09:12 pm
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lovestory

The first time I meet him, 
I dress as a potted plant, 
and he is a ghost. 

He threatens me
with his warm beer,
and I tell him 
he is an annoyance,
and I turn and walk away.

The second time we meet
our friends exchange vows.

I mock him
for not eating his vegetables, 
and refuse to dance,
until my brother-in-law sweeps me away.

The third time we meet,
we walk in brutal winter wind
to a bar that is closed
after watching a matinee.

Then we walk on grassy ramparts
and imagine our children,
and I think I'm in love,
and he knows that he is.

Our friends' vows are broken.

Yet he and I are forever bound:
for better or for worse
for richer, for poorer, 
in sickness and health, 
as long as we may live.

2025.06.24

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